We recently spoke about adultery, but I think we need to highlight its dangers and encourage the body of Christ against it. The devil is after families. He wants to do all he can to destroy families. He wants to do all he can to destroy the constitution of marriage. Let this be a warning to you. Do not commit adultery. Thou shall not commit Adultery is one of the Ten Commandments given to the Israelites by God on stone tablets.
Marriage is the union between a man and a woman who are legally married and have made their vows before God to become husband and wife. Within the confines of marriage, sexual relations are designed to be one of the channels of bonding and enjoyment by a man and his wife. However, it becomes a sin in the sight of God when one party chooses to indulge in extramarital affairs, adultery. What does God think about adultery? It is a pity some Christians of this age like to crouch under the context of grace, to find justifications to continue to indulge in sin and feel vindicated.
It is true that we are in the era of grace, the era when the blood of Jesus has washed all of our sins and we are no longer under the law. However, he did not shed his blood on the cross so we can get express permission to sin. Christians do not toy with sin or underestimate its destructive power. God still frowns on adultery as much as he does every other sin. Proverbs six thirty-two. Proverbs six two through thirty-three.
Whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding. He who does so destroys his own soul, wounds and dishonor he will get and his reproach will not be wiped away. Earlier in this chapter, Solomon warned us in Proverbs six twenty-seven through twenty-eight Can a man take fire to his bosom and his clothes not be burned? Can one walk on hot coals and his feet not be seared? Of course, the answer is obviously that fire burns whatever it touches, leaving injuries.
This powerful metaphor is used to teach the destructive consequences of adultery. The truth is adultery will burn everyone and everything it touches. It even destroys the innocent people in the situation. Adultery is not a victimless crime. Well, most people might think you can’t accuse me of adultery. I am faithful to my spouse. I have never cheated or slept with another since I got married. Yes, true.
But adultery doesn’t only happen when we lay in bed physically with a man or woman. Sometimes it is all about what goes on in the mind. Jesus was speaking to the multitude in Matthew five twenty-seven through twenty-eight. Here is what he said about adultery of the mind. Matthew five twenty-seven through twenty eight. You have heard that it was said by them of old time thou shalt not commit adultery. But I say on to you that whosoever looks at a woman to lust after her have committed adultery with her already in his heart.
What Jesus told us here in this verse is that you can commit adultery without having sex and indulged infatuation, a fantasy affair, a lustful addressing with the eyes, a porn habit.
All these acts are committing adultery. Matthew five twenty-seven through twenty-eight seems a bit harsh, right? Even looking at a woman or a man lustfully means you’ve committed adultery. This commandment is not quite so easy to follow now, especially in our culture today, where it seems that so many advertising campaigns are trying to get people to look at others in a lustful manner just to sell their product. I was at the airport the other day and the ads that were on the billboards were shocking.
In Matthew five verse twenty-seven, Jesus reaffirmed what had already been established years ago before he started his own earthly ministry. He started with ye have heard that it this is also one of the biblical confirmations of the fact that Jesus did not come to change the law or disrupt what had been in existence. Rather, he came to enforce it by coming with the New Covenant in verse twenty-eight. He went further to establish that he who looks at a man or woman lustfully not necessarily with the aim of getting with him or her in bed, has already committed adultery with her.
Therefore, the Bible asks us to guard our heart diligently and be mindful of the thoughts that wander through our minds. It starts from what we watch on our smartphones, computers, and TVs. How are you doing it? Staying pure on this commandment, are you making intentional steps to keep your eyes away from the things that may cause you to break it?
I encourage you this week to look at your life and what you allow yourself to see and examine where you may be breaking this commandment. Our mind is a powerhouse where the issues of life flow from Proverbs four. Twenty-three Keep thy heart with all diligence, for out of it are the issues of life. The first step before a person commits physical adultery is that they perform the act in their mind. Don’t do it. Resist the temptation. If you commit adultery once, it’s much easier to commit that sin a second time.
Radical measures must be taken to prevent this from happening again. Lust is one of the worst spirits out there. The reason why I say this is because it makes people make dumb decisions. People have slept with people they have no business sleeping with. Don’t answer this question out loud, but has lust ever made you make a dumb decision before? Lust makes people make stupid decisions, intelligent people, people smarter than you. And I make dumb, foolish decisions because of the spirit of lust in the grip of lust and temptation.
Those committing adultery often don’t consider how destructive it is or they know the risks, but think pleasure is worth that gamble. Twenty minutes of pleasure is not worth a lifetime of pain. The pleasure of adultery literally only lasts for a short period of time, but it leads to a lifetime of grief and painful consequences. Most adulterers live in regret. Don’t do it. Adultery will make you live a life of fear. You always fear that at any moment your partner will find out.
The writer of Proverbs Solomon knows firsthand about the effects of adultery. His family history testifies of this. Solomon’s father, King David, the man who was regarded as a man after God’s own heart, first came to know his mother, Bathsheba, in an act of adultery and as a result, a cover up and bloodshed was caused because of this. The consequences of this haunted David for the rest of his life. I have even spoken to people who committed adultery and the early days of their marriage and 15 years later, they are still being haunted by this act. A man committed this act, brought a disease into his home when his wife was innocent and had not done anything. I encourage staying faithful. You are not above committing adultery. It only takes one second, one bad day, one weak day. Be mindful of that and fight it. How to overcome adultery. The spirit of God helps us conquer all natural weaknesses and make us strong in Christ.
If it were by our own strength and understanding, we will not stop relapsing and falling deep every time we fall. Let the spirit of God help you win. Here are biblical tips that can help overcome adultery, both the urge to get physical and the one that stems from the mind. Be honest with your father. The first step to getting a solution to any problem is to acknowledge that there is a problem in the first place. Go to God unplugged and lay it bare.
Let him know about your struggles and how you can’t seem to help yourself no matter how many times you try. He knows about everything and sees how messed up you feel every time you go again. Call him into the situation and ask him to help you overcome. Do not get too pompous or too ashamed to tell him all. Proverbs Twenty-eight, thirteen. He that cover of his sins shall not prosper, but who so confesses and forsake them shall have mercy.
Guard your heart. It is true that we live in a time where we are just a click and a pop away from falling deep into sin. But the instruction of the Lord says Guard your heart diligently and jealously. Every great and likewise perilous idea begins from the mind. Censor what your eyes see that go through your mind. If you watch movies or visit sites that trigger you to start indulging in these secret sins, stop at once. Make a covenant with your God and your mind to steer clear and desist from such. Show remorse and never do it again.
The blood of Jesus is more than enough for the remission of sins. No matter how drenched you are in inequity, it will cleanse you and make you crisp. However, it is not for you to keep on sinning and asking for forgiveness. Never go back to the lifestyle you have renounced. Conclusion guard your heart always for out of it flows the issue of life, the grace of God is sufficient to help. God is interested in your family. He wants to bless your family and make it great.
Some people are looking at your family and praying to have a good family like yours. If you don’t know, your marriage can be an inspiration to some other couples. You may not know it, but they’re looking at you are wishing for a good marriage. Don’t destroy it with lust. Don’t destroy it with adultery. When it seems hard to run from adultery, use prayer; fight it with prayer. Adultery is a spirit, and that spirit can destroy. You must fight with prayer. As you are running, be shielding yourself with prayer. You must also love with prayer. Don’t let anyone give you an ungodly suggestion about marriage. Don’t accept any evil suggestions from friends. Remember the word of the Lord today. You must not commit adultery. Exodus Chapter 20 Verse 14.